SEL for Parents

Home and family factors account for 49% of the influence on student performance.

National Staff Development Council’s Standards for Staff Development, Results, 2001

Examples of what you can do at home to improve your child’s social-emotional skills:*
  • Focus on your child’s strengths first before being constructively critical.
  • Follow up with consequences for misbehavior.
  • Ask children how they feel and be understanding of those feelings first before making suggestions.
  • Practice ways to stay calm when angry (like counting to ten, thinking of other things, finding the positive when it seems none exists).
  • Avoid shaming your child.
  • Be willing to apologize.
  • Give children choices where appropriate and respect their wishes if it really doesn’t matter (gain authority by being firm on important matters).
  • Ask questions that help children solve problems on their own.
  • Read books and stories together.
  • Encourage sharing and helping.
These may seem like just words, but they are actually action steps for you to take to improve your child’s life, as well as your own. They are based on scientifically-proven studies, not on someone’s theory or belief system. If you consciously do these things, they will help your children cope more easily, become more resilient, be happier and do better in school. Coupled with twelve years of schooling in how to control their emotions and thought, your involvement in teaching these skills at home will cement a way of thinking in their lives that will improve their chances of a happy and successful life. *Taken directly from